A self-paced digital course teaching you actionable steps to begin cultivating more security and confidence within yourself and your relationships.

Before I Tell You About This Life-Changing Program, Let's Talk About Who This Is Really For... 


You have an Anxious Attachment Style and you want to learn how to become more secure within yourself and your relationships.

Whether you are dating or in a relationship, you tend to:

→Become overly preoccupied and anxious when dating or in a relationship.

Struggle with identifying and asserting your needs.

 →Give more than you receive.

→Overthink and overanalyze, often assuming the worst-case scenario.

Have trouble with managing your emotions.

→Have a looming fear of being left or forgotten.

→Forget your self-worth and how much you have to offer!...

If this sounds like you, I’m going to tell you exactly how My Secure Self Academy: For The Anxious Attachment Style will give you actionable tools to guide you on your journey to becoming your most Secure Self.

By the end of this program, you will have:

Understood the ins and outs of your anxious attachment style, giving you a language to better understand and express yourself.

✓Created a clear vision of your Secure Self!

Developed more certainty in knowing what your needs are and how to meet them.

Learned how to challenge your insecure thinking patterns and reframe them into secure, empowering belief systems.

Learned healthier ways to soothe your emotions and set boundaries. (Bye bye co-dependency!)

Cultivated more confidence in navigating dating and relationships.

Created a solid foundation of self-love--Because the relationship you have with yourself mirrors every relationship you will have.

“I kept having a terrible time with relationships, and I was really kind of embarrassed about it--I  couldn’t figure this out on my own, so I signed up for Jessica's program and honestly it was one of the best things I’ve ever done!”


-Megan K.

Becky B.

I can see how triggers affect me now, how they would have affected me in the past, and how I want them to affect me in the future. This course is the forward-moving push I need to keep making progress!

Rachel K.

It’s been super helpful and I would do it again in a heartbeat…I liked that the course began with the concept that, “we can change and that this doesn’t need to stay like this.”I realized I have a lot of contributing trauma that I didn’t even know was a thing just doing the assignments and how abnormal some of my childhood and the behaviors I’ve used for survival are. Doing therapy in addition to the course has been super helpful for me.

Johanna H.

This course is just what I've been looking for. It has helped me to understand why I (re)act the way I do in different situations and how to meet my own needs in order to have better outcomes in my relationships.



Having a Secure Attachment Style is not about being perfect, not making any mistakes, or living a pain-free life…These expectations go against our very human nature and life itself. Cultivating a Secure Attachment Style is a lifelong process of deconditioning from layers upon layers of learned identities, perceptions, habits, and expectations while learning healthier and authentic ways of relating to ourselves and others. It's an evolutionary process that is unique to each and every one of us.


-Jessica Da Silva, LMFT



In order to make the changes we want to see within ourselves and our relationships, it’s crucial to first understand who we are and why we do the things we do.

Attachment Theory gives us a framework and a language to understand our thoughts, feelings and behaviors.

It gives us insight into our patterns, our insecurities, our triggers and our unique relationship needs.

In this module, I will give you a blueprint to understand these different aspects of your attachment style in order to cultivate more self-knowing, self-awareness and self-acceptance.


In this module, you will learn what a secure attachment looks like and scientific proof that states why YOU CAN ALSO shift from an insecure to a secure attachment style!

This section will help you get crystal clear on the secure version of yourself you will begin embodying.

In order to support you in this process, you will have access to:

 An in-depth Secure Self Development Worksheet and Guide

A 5 Minute Secure Self Daily Journaling Practice

A Guided Secure Self Visualization Meditation

These tools were designed to be simple to implement, yet instrumental for your growth.


As an anxious attachment, you often lose yourself in relationships. This is mostly because you never really had the opportunity to know yourself.

Perhaps you were too busy trying to meet the needs of your caregiver(s), that you neglected your own in the process…Or perhaps you had to “be a certain way” or “do certain things” in order to get the love and approval you craved.

Whatever the circumstance, it caused a disconnect between you and your innate needs & desires.

In this module, you will begin to understand the human language of feelings and needs. When we can understand the nature of our emotions, we can better soothe ourselves.

Instead of feeling anxious about your emotions, you will be able to identify the need behind this discomfort, and most importantly, how to move away from self-neglect and into self-honor.

This is where you learn how to clearly communicate your needs and how to begin meeting your own needs as well.

By honoring your needs and feeling comfortable meeting them, you build self-confidence, self-respect and self-trust.


As an anxious attachment, you struggle with co-dependency and setting boundaries.

With co-dependency, we lose our power by heavily relying on others to meet our needs. In this section, you will learn how to create healthy interdependence versus co-dependence.

In this process, you will also learn how to set healthy boundaries in order to prevent resentment, burnout and dissatisfaction in your relationships.

In this module you will learn:

→How to shift from co-dependency to interdependency.

3 different types of boundaries.

How to set healthy boundaries within different areas of your life.

How to honor and communicate your boundaries.

These learnings will help you experience more certainty, peace and stability within yourself and your relationships.


In this module, you will go from becoming aware of your sabotaging thinking patterns to actually doing something about them.

So often I have people come to me saying they’ve gone to therapy and know what their challenges are, but they still don't know how to change.

In this section, you will get my 4 Step Secure Reframe Process to help you shift your insecure thinking patterns into secure belief systems.

These steps are comprised from some of my favorite evidence based approaches: Mindfulness, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Psychodynamic Therapy and Solution Focused Therapy. These steps are simple to implement, yet profoundly effective. It’s a tool you will use with any challenging thought that comes your way.



Self-Reparenting is a process of giving ourselves the love and support we didn’t get from our attachment figures and healing those relational experiences.

 In this process, you will learn to:

 -Love and care for yourself.

-Create more positive self-talk.

-Learn to accept yourself.

-Regulate your emotions by soothing your nervous system when triggered.

-Increase your self-esteem.

-Re-work bad habits.

-Become more independent and self-reliant.

-Learn healthy conflict communication.


In this module, you will learn how to form a new relationship with some of the unlikeable, unreasonable, wounded parts of your psyche in order to integrate new patterns in your life.

We often lose touch with aspects of ourself in order to be loved and accepted by others.

And if you have an Anxious Attachment Style, this separation from Self is even more prominent.

 Shadow work helps us bring these repressed parts of our humanity to light (to consciousness), so that we can begin aligning with our true, authentic Self.


Becoming securely attached requires a change in patterns, but in that process, it takes patience and A LOT of self-compassion.

In this module, you will learn mindful self-compassion techniques to help guide you through life with more grace and ease.

These building blocks will be the cherry on top! Tools that will serve as your secure base forever.

When you enroll, you’ll get:


My Secure Self Academy: For The Anxious Attachment Style


  •  8 Implementation Modules with comprehensive videos walking you through my favorite evidence based strategies to help you become more secure within yourself and your relationships.
  •  Step-by-step PDF worksheets and checklists to enhance and support your learning process.
  •  Guided meditation and visualization exercises to re-program the subconscious mind.
  •  Lifetime access to this e-course and resources.
  • Access to future additional mini e-courses to compliment this program.


You’ll be given access to one module per week so that you have ample time to dive into the lessons and execute that portion of the process before moving onto the next.


We do this to protect your time, attention and focus while sparing you from the intense overwhelm that comes from learning new concepts in a short amount of time.

Plus These Extras To Generate Momentum and Support Your Growth


(A $3500 Value)


  • By signing up today you get access to at least a year of monthly Q & A's with me to get your burning questions answered.
  • Lifetime access to a library of past Q & A sessions with potent questions and answers regarding all things attachment styles. 
  •  An Anxious Attachment Style PDF Blueprint that you can refer to any time to find details about your attachment and strategies in becoming more secure. 

You’ll Also be Backed by a Risk-Free 7 Day Guarantee


Let me say this upfront.

My Secure Self Academy: For The Anxious Attachment Style is the most comprehensive, step-by-step implementation program for Anxious Attachments who are wanting to learn proven tools to become more secure within themselves and their relationships.

Now here’s the kicker.

By the end of these 7 days, you’ll have received access to the first module.

If you don’t feel totally confident about committing to the course, simply reach out and we’ll refund your investment.



($3500 VALUE) 










Still “thinking about it”?

You should give My Secure Self Academy: For The Anxious Attachment a 7 day risk-free shot if you’re motivated by any of the following:

You want to feel more secure within yourself and your relationships…like…really badly.

You want to feel more confident.

You want to have more control over your emotional experiences.

You want to be more self-reliant.

You want to create a solid foundation of safety and security within yourself.

That’s why you’re motivated beyond measure to invest the next 2 months in learning and implementing successful strategies in embodying your most secure self!

I'm excited to guide you through this life changing program!


For those of you that are new here, my name is Jessica Da Silva and I'm a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Attachment Coach, helping adults end their unhealthy dating patterns and create healthier, strong relationships.

Creating the framework that's incorporated in My Secure Self Academy: For The Anxious Attachment Style has literally changed my life!

I’ve experienced first hand what it feels like to transition from an insecure to a secure attachment style.

And more than anything else, I want to share how to do that with you!

Although it’s not our fault for developing this attachment style, it is our responsibility to change it as adults, especially if it's causing more disruption than benefit in our lives.

If you struggle with the challenges of having an Anxious Attachment Style, you owe it to yourself to at least take a risk-free plunge to see what your life as a Secure Attached individual feels like.

Should you choose to accept my invitation, I personally guarantee that these 8 modules will have given you a deeper understanding into how you experience love and tools to begin creating healthier, strong relationships.

What better time than now to invest in yourself and your growth!



($3500 VALUE)