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MY SECURE SELF ACADEMY:

FOR THE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT STYLE

 

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Before I Tell You About This Life-Changing Program, Let's Talk About Who This Is Really For... 

 

You have an Anxious Attachment Style and you want to learn how to become more secure within yourself and your relationships.

Whether you are dating or in a relationship, you tend to:

→Lose yourself within relationships.

→Put your needs on the back burner.

 →People please.

 →Take things personally.

→Suppress your thoughts and feelings in order to avoid conflict.

→Overthink and overanalyze.

→Struggle with perfectionism.

→Think you're "too needy" or "too much".

→Have an underlying fear that you will be rejected or abandoned.

→Struggle with co-dependency and setting boundaries.

→Experience irrational jealousy.

→Have low self-esteem and confidence.

If this sounds like you, you’re in the right place! And I’m going to tell you exactly how My Secure Self Academy: For The Anxious Attachment Style will give you the tools, confidence and support on you need to guide you on your journey to becoming your most Secure Self.

By the end of this program, you will have:

βœ“Understood the ins and outs of your anxious attachment style, giving you a language to better understand and express yourself.

βœ“Created a clear vision of your Secure Self!

βœ“Developed more certainty in knowing what your needs are and how to meet them.

βœ“Learned how to challenge your insecure thinking patterns and reframe them into secure, empowering belief systems.

βœ“Learned healthier ways to soothe your emotions and set boundaries. (Bye bye co-dependency!)

βœ“Cultivated more confidence in navigating dating and relationships.

βœ“Created a solid foundation of self-love--Because the relationship you have with yourself, mirrors every relationship you will have.

“I kept having a terrible time with relationships, and I was really kind of embarrassed about it--I  couldn’t figure this out on my own, so I signed up for her program and honestly it was one of the best things I’ve ever done!”

 

-Megan K.
 

Michelle B.

I’ve tried many mental health counselors in the past and didn’t get the coping skills and tools I needed. Within 2 months of working with Jess, she was able to give me that.

Stephanie R.

Jess facilitated processes on conscious re-programming, mindfulness, visualization techniques, and affirmations just to name a few. The journaling practice she introduced me to is something I still do everyday as part of my own alignment work.

Stephanie R.

I learned various tools and methods to reconnect to my "why" and how I can move forward with more clarity to create peace with the past and create new relational experiences.

WHAT'S INSIDE...

MODULE 1: UNDERSTANDING THE INS AND OUTS OF YOUR ATTACHMENT STYLE

In order to make the changes we want to see within ourselves and our relationships, it’s crucial to first understand who we are and why we do the things we do.

Attachment Theory gives us a framework and a language to understand our thoughts, feelings and behaviors.

It gives us insight into our patterns, our insecurities, our triggers and our unique relationship needs.

In this module, I will give you a blueprint to understand these different aspects of your attachment style in order to cultivate more self-knowing, self-awareness and self-acceptance.

MODULE 2: DEVELOPING YOUR SECURE SELF IDENTITY

In this module, you will learn what a secure attachment looks like and scientific proof that states why YOU CAN ALSO shift from an insecure to a secure attachment style!

This section will help you get crystal clear on the secure version of yourself you will begin embodying.

In order to support you in this process, you will have access to:

 →An in-depth Secure Self Development Worksheet and Guide

→A 5 Minute Secure Self Daily Journaling Practice

→A Guided Secure Self Visualization Meditation

These tools were designed to be simple to implement, yet instrumental for your growth.

MODULE 3: RECONNECTING TO YOUR FEELINGS AND NEEDS

As an anxious attachment, you often lose yourself in relationships. This is mostly because you never really had the opportunity to know yourself.

Perhaps you were too busy trying to meet the needs of your caregiver(s), that you neglected your own in the process…Or perhaps you had to “be a certain way” or “do certain things” in order to get the love and approval you craved.

Whatever the circumstance, it caused a disconnect between you and your innate needs & desires.

In this module, you will begin to understand the human language of feelings and needs. When we can understand the nature of our emotions, we can better soothe ourselves.

Instead of feeling anxious about your emotions, you will be able to identify the need behind this discomfort, and most importantly, how to move away from self-neglect and into self-honor.

This is where you learn how to clearly communicate your needs and how to begin meeting your own needs as well.

By honoring your needs and feeling comfortable meeting them, you build self-confidence, self-respect and self-trust.

I will also guide you through an NLP visualization exercise to help you release "negative emotions" associated with abandonment. This will help you experience more security within yourself and your relationships.

MODULE 4: REFRAMING YOUR INSECURE THOUGHTS INTO SECURE BELIEF SYSTEMS

In this module, you will go from becoming aware of your sabotaging thinking patterns to actually doing something about them.

So often I have people come to me saying they’ve gone to therapy and know what their challenges are, but they still don't know how to change.

In this section, you will get my 4 Step Secure Reframe Process to help you shift your insecure thinking patterns into secure belief systems.

These steps are comprised from some of my favorite evidence based approaches: Mindfulness, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Psychodynamic Therapy and Solution Focused Therapy. These steps are simple to implement, yet profoundly effective. It’s a tool you will use with any challenging thought that comes your way.

I will also guide you through an NLP visualization exercise to help you release limiting beliefs keeping you in self-defeating cycles.

You will have access to this guided NLP visualization to use with other limiting beliefs you struggle with.

MODULE 5: BREAKING CO-DEPENDENCY & ESTABLISHING HEALTHY BOUNDARIES

As an anxious attachment, you struggle with co-dependency and setting boundaries.

With co-dependency, we lose our power by heavily relying on others to meet our needs. In this section, you will learn how to create healthy interdependence versus co-dependence.

In this process, you will also learn how to set healthy boundaries in order to prevent resentment, burnout and dissatisfaction in your relationships.

In this module you will learn:

→How to shift from co-dependency to interdependency.

→3 different types of boundaries.

→How to set healthy boundaries within different areas of your life.

→How to honor and communicate your boundaries.

These learnings will help you experience more certainty, peace and stability within yourself and your relationships.

MODULE 6: SELF-REPARENTING - HEALING ATTACHMENT TRAUMA

Self-Reparenting is a process of giving ourselves the love and support we didn’t get from our attachment figures and healing those relational experiences.

 In this process, you will learn to:

 -Love and care for yourself.

-Create more positive self-talk.

-Learn to accept yourself.

-Regulate your emotions by soothing your nervous system when triggered.

-Increase your self-esteem.

-Re-work bad habits.

-Become more independent and self-reliant.

-Learn healthy conflict communication.

MODULE 7: MEETING YOUR SHADOW - RECONNECTING TO LOST PARTS OF YOURSELF

In this module, you will learn how to form a new relationship with some of the unlikeable, unreasonable, wounded parts of your psyche in order to integrate new patterns in your life.

We often lose touch with aspects of ourself in order to be loved and accepted by others.

And if you have an Anxious Attachment Style, this separation from Self is even more prominent.

 Shadow work helps us bring these repressed parts of our humanity to light (to consciousness), so that we can begin aligning with our true, authentic Self.

MODULE 8: MINDFUL SELF-COMPASSION

Becoming securely attached requires a change in patterns, but in that process, it takes patience and A LOT of self-compassion.

In this module, you will learn mindful self-compassion techniques to help guide you through life with more grace and ease.

These building blocks will be the cherry on top! Tools that will serve as your secure base forever.

When you enroll during this special limited time period, you’ll get:

 

My Secure Self Academy: For The Anxious Attachment Style

 

(A $1600 Value)

 

  •  8 Implementation Modules showing you my go-to, evidence based strategies to help you become more secure within yourself and your relationships.
  •  Worksheets to enhance and support your learning process.
  •  Guided meditation and visualization exercises to help you connect to your emotions, release sabotaging thoughts / feelings and embody your most Secure Self.
  •  Lifetime access to this e-course and resources.

 

You’ll be given access to one module per week so that you have ample time to dive into the lessons and execute that portion of the process before moving onto the next.

 

We do this to protect your time, attention and focus while sparing you from the intense overwhelm that comes from learning new concepts in a short amount of time.

Plus These Bonuses To Generate Momentum and Support Your Growth

 

(A $697 Value)

 

  •  3 Live Q & A sessions to make sure you get your burning questions answered and can move forward with clarity and confidence.
  •  A Facebook community with fellow students for additional support.
  •  An Anxious Attachment Style PDF Blueprint that you can refer to any time to find details about your attachment and strategies in becoming more secure.

You’ll Also be Backed by a Risk-Free 7 Day Guarantee

 

Let me say this upfront.

My Secure Self Academy: For The Anxious Attachment Style is the most comprehensive, step-by-step implementation program for Anxious Attachments who are wanting to learn proven tools to become more secure within themselves and their relationships.

Now here’s the kicker.

By the end of these 7 days, you’ll have received access to the first module.

If you don’t feel totally confident about committing to the course, simply reach out and we’ll refund your investment.

Still “thinking about it”?

You should give My Secure Self Academy: For The Anxious Attachment a 7 day risk-free shot if you’re motivated by any of the following:

You want to feel more secure within yourself and your relationships…like…really badly.

You want to feel more confident.

You want to have more control over your emotional experiences.

You want to be more self-reliant.

You want to create a solid foundation of safety and security within yourself.

That’s why you’re motivated beyond measure to invest the next 2 months in learning and implementing successful strategies in embodying your most secure self!

I personally cannot wait to guide you over these next 8 weeks…

 

For those of you that are new here, my name is Jessica Da Silva and I'm a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Attachment Coach, helping adults end their unhealthy dating patterns and create healthier, strong relationships.

Creating the framework that's incorporated in My Secure Self Academy: For The Anxious Attachment Style has literally changed my life!

I’ve experienced first hand what it feels like to transition from an insecure to a secure attachment style.

And more than anything else, I want to share how to do that with you!

Although it’s not our fault for developing this attachment style, it is our responsibility to change it as adults, especially if it's causing more disruption than benefit in our lives.

If you struggle with the challenges of having an Anxious Attachment Style, you owe it to yourself to at least take a risk-free plunge to see what your life as a Secure Attached individual feels like.

Should you choose to accept my invitation, I personally guarantee that these next 8 weeks will have given you a deeper understanding into how you experience love and tools to begin creating healthier, strong relationships.

I look forward to meeting you personally inside My Secure Self Academy: For The Anxious Attachment Style!