MY SECURE SELF ACADEMY:
FOR THE FEARFFUL AVOIDANT
A self-paced digital course teaching you actionable steps to begin cultivating more security and confidence within yourself and your relationships.
Before I Tell You About This Life-Changing Program, Let's Talk About Who This Is Really For...
You have a Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style and you want to learn how to become more secure within yourself and your relationships.
Whether you are dating or in a relationship, you tend to:
→Fluctuate between anxious and avoidant behaviors--seeking intimacy and pulling away as things progress.
→Be distrusting of others--assuming worst case scenarios.
→Be highly dependent of others’ approval and affirmation.
→Believe good things don't last or that you are unworthy of healthy love.
→Have a hard time regulating your emotions.
→Struggle with healthy conflict resolution.
If this sounds like you, I’m going to tell you exactly how My Secure Self Academy: For The Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style will give you actionable tools to guide you on your journey to becoming your most Secure Self.
Having a Secure Attachment Style is not about being perfect, not making any mistakes, or living a pain-free life…These expectations go against our very human nature and life itself. Cultivating a Secure Attachment Style is a lifelong process of deconditioning from layers upon layers of learned identities, perceptions, habits, and expectations while learning healthier and authentic ways of relating to ourselves and others. It's an evolutionary process that is unique to each and every one of us.
-Jessica Da Silva, LMFT
By the end of this program, you will have:
✓Understood the ins and outs of your fearful avoidant attachment style, giving you a language to better understand and express yourself.
✓Created a clear vision of your Secure Self!
✓Developed more clarity around your needs + triggers and how to successfully manage them.
✓Learned how to challenge your insecure thinking patterns and reframe them into secure, empowering belief systems.
✓Learned healthier ways to regulate your emotions and set boundaries.
✓Learned conflict resolution strategies.
✓Shifted your views on love and commitment.
✓Cultivated more confidence within yourself and your relationships.
“If someone like me can develop a secure attachment style and be in a healthy relationship, than anyone can...”
MODULE 1: UNDERSTANDING THE INS AND OUTS OF YOUR ATTACHMENT STYLE
In order to make the changes we want to see within ourselves and our relationships, it’s crucial to first understand who we are and why we do the things we do.
Attachment Theory gives us a framework and a language to understand our thoughts, feelings and behaviors.
It gives us insight into our patterns, our insecurities, our triggers and our unique relationship needs.
In this module, I will give you a blueprint to understand these different aspects of your fearful avoidant attachment style in order to cultivate more self-awareness.
MODULE 2: BECOMING YOUR SECURE SELF
In this module, you will learn what a secure attachment looks like and scientific proof that states why YOU CAN ALSO shift from an insecure to a secure attachment style!
This section will help you get crystal clear on the secure version of yourself you will begin embodying.
In order to support you in this process, you will have access to:
→An in-depth Secure Self Development Worksheet and Guide
→A 5 Minute Secure Self Daily Journaling Practice
→A Guided Secure Self Visualization Meditation
These tools were designed to be simple to implement, yet instrumental for your growth.
MODULE 3: DISCOVERING AND COMMUNICATING YOUR RELATIONSHIP NEEDS
Identifying your emotions not only gives you power over them, but it also guides you to your needs.
When you have avoidant aspects to your attachment style, you probably shy away from your feelings or block them off entirely.
In this module, you will learn to to communicate your emotions and meet your underlying needs.
These strategies will help with conflict resolution, as well as giving and receiving love in healthy ways.
MODULE 4: ESTABLISHING HEALTHY BOUNDARIES
For a lot of people with a fearful avoidant attachment style, the boundaries are there, but they’re hard to express.
In this module you will understand your own boundaries so that you can assert them and express yourself clearly and accurately.
You will learn:
→How to shift from co-dependency to interdependency.
→The 3 different types of boundaries.
→How to set healthy boundaries within different areas of your life.
→How to honor and communicate your boundaries.
These learnings will help you feel more confident within yourself and your relationships.
MODULE 5: REFRAMING YOUR INSECURE THOUGHTS INTO SECURE BELIEF SYSTEMS
When you have a fearful avoidant attachment style, you often think badly about yourself and those around you.
These automatic thoughts cause much of the pain and difficulties you experience.
In this module, you will begin challenging these insecure thought patterns using my 4 Step Secure Reframe Process and move towards secure ways of thinking.
These steps are comprised from some of my favorite evidence based approaches: Mindfulness, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Psychodynamic Therapy and Solution Focused Therapy. These steps are simple to implement, yet profoundly effective. It’s a tool you will use with any challenging thought that comes your way.
MODULE 6: HEALING ATTACHMENT TRAUMA
In this process, you will learn to:
-Love and care for yourself.
-Create more positive self-talk.
-Learn to accept yourself.
-Regulate your emotions by soothing your nervous system when triggered.
-Increase your self-esteem.
-Re-work bad habits.
MODULE 7: REFRAME YOUR SHAME
Human beings are flawed, and that’s okay. But when you have a fearful avoidant attachment style, you carry a lot of shame around these imperfections.
In this module, you will learn how to form a new relationship with some of the unlikeable, unreasonable, wounded parts of yourself.
This will help eliminate your "black and white thinking" and help you find more acceptance and compassion for the space the in-between.
This insight will help reduce the judgement you experience so that you can feel more connected to yourself and others.
MODULE 8: SELF-KINDNESS AND FORGIVENESS
Becoming securely attached requires a change in patterns, but in that process, it takes patience and A LOT of self-compassion.
People with fearful avoidant attachment styles often have low self-esteem.
Your self-esteem can affect your relationship with others, and it can make you feel like you aren’t worthy of love.
This module will help raise your self-esteem so you can take control of your life and feel like you have power over your own decisions.
When you enroll, you’ll get:
My Secure Self Academy: For The Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style
- 8 Implementation Modules with comprehensive videos walking you through my favorite evidence based strategies to help you become more secure within yourself and your relationships.
- Step-by-step PDF worksheets and checklists to enhance and support your learning process.
- Guided meditation and visualization exercises to re-program the subconscious mind.
- Lifetime access to this e-course and resources.
- Access to future additional mini e-courses to compliment this program.
You’ll be given access to one module per week so that you have ample time to dive into the lessons and execute that portion of the process before moving onto the next.
We do this to protect your time, attention and focus while sparing you from the intense overwhelm that comes from learning new concepts in a short amount of time.
Plus These Extras To Generate Momentum and Support Your Growth
(A $3500 Value)
- By signing up today you get access to at least a year of monthly Q & A's with me to get your burning questions answered.
- Lifetime access to a library of past Q & A sessions with potent questions and answers regarding all things attachment styles.
- A Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style PDF Blueprint that you can refer to any time to find details about your attachment and strategies in becoming more secure.
You’ll Also be Backed by a Risk-Free 7 Day Guarantee
Let me say this upfront.
My Secure Self Academy: For The Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style is the most comprehensive, step-by-step implementation program for fearful avoidant attachments who are wanting to learn proven tools to become more secure within themselves and their relationships.
Now here’s the kicker.
By the end of these 7 days, you’ll have received access to the first module.
If you don’t feel totally confident about committing to the course, simply reach out and we’ll refund your investment.
Thank you sososososo much for this amazing experience of being involved in this program. The knowledge and skills that I have learned from you will always be carried with me no matter where I am. I have learned how to self-soothe, reflect on my needs, and use strategies to operate from a secure version of myself with your help. I truly value all of your insights and guidance. I am so excited to continue building on these skills and creating a stronger secure version of myself.
I kept having a terrible time with relationships, and I was really kind of embarrassed about it--I couldn’t figure this out on my own, so I signed up for Jessica's program and honestly it was one of the best things I’ve ever done!
Still “thinking about it”?
You should give My Secure Self Academy: For The Fearful Avoidant Attachment a 7 day risk-free shot if you’re motivated by any of the following:
You want to feel more secure within yourself and your relationships…like…really badly.
You want to have more control over your emotional experiences.
You want to feel more stable.
You want to have a set of tools to help you manage your relationship anxieties when they surface.
That’s why you’re motivated beyond measure to invest the next 2 months in learning and implementing successful strategies in embodying your most secure self!
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I'm excited to guide you through this life changing program!
For those of you that are new here, my name is Jessica Da Silva and I'm a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Attachment Coach, helping adults end their unhealthy dating patterns and create healthier, strong relationships.
Creating the framework that's incorporated in My Secure Self Academy: For The Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style has literally changed my life!
I’ve experienced first hand what it feels like to transition from an insecure to a secure attachment style.
And more than anything else, I want to share how to do that with you!
Although it’s not our fault for developing this attachment style, it is our responsibility to change it as adults, especially if it's causing more disruption than benefit in our lives.
If you struggle with the challenges of having an Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style, you owe it to yourself to at least take a risk-free plunge to see what your life as a Secure Attached individual feels like.
Should you choose to accept my invitation, I personally guarantee that these 8 modules will have given you a deeper understanding into how you experience love and tools to begin creating healthier, strong relationships.
What better time than now to invest in yourself and your growth!